In my work as a Counsellor I hear and see time and time again how us human beings fall incredibly short on knowing how to be there for others/friends/loved ones in need- even those well- intentioned. How at our most pained and vulnerable a person in emotional need is turned away and/or shut down. Shut down by comments such as “don’t dwell on it;” “think positive;” “move on;” “don’t cry;” “it could be worse.” Then we wonder why the depressed kills themselves.
People oftentimes attempts and/or kill themselves because there is no one emotionally, let alone physically, there to help bear those terribly pain-filled emotions and mental states…
People suffer in silence because they know and have beared the brunt of such flippant comments in a world emotionally-removed from itself…
Put it to the test- when watching tv notice the usual response to a character upset and in tears….In your own world observe how tempting it is for you to tell people- direct and indirectly- to not feel how they are feeling….Present yourself in need and observe how people respond to you…See how children with their feelings are told what to do with them…
Feelings comes to pass, not to be denied. We deny them at our peril…watch the news, read the papers…This is not rocket science- or perhaps it is…
We live in a world where feelings, emotions, and mental struggles are demonized and viewed as weak, shameful, dangerous…
I say to you, forget Man-up, we need to HUMANE-UP!
This world seriously needs it: it seriously need humane beings being as they are made to be as warm-blooded mammals…
Humans NEEDS humans and suffers for the lack of. This is evident in the fact that we are the only species dependent on our carers for the longest period of time- 18 years. 18 years is needed for our optimal development, that is also why CHILDHOOD MATTERS and why we suffer long afterward when childhood rearing- or lack of- does us more harm than good.
HUMANE-UP human beings! We are meant to be warm blooded mammals; warmed up and entrusted as such to be here, on earth, doing a much better job than we are doing….We behave more like animals and in that disposition elect inhumane beings to govern us.
This world is twisted and is in serious need of Back to Human Kind Basics….
Nuff said..
Peace & Love
Light…